When it comes to sex and relationship problems, many of us are leading lives of quiet desperation. Sometimes you can be lying in bed next to someone and feel a million miles apart. Talking about sex and relationships is hard, but self-silencing can be even harder in the long run. As Tennessee Williams wrote of the marriage bed in his play Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, “When a marriage goes on the rocks, the rocks are there, right there!” Ian's focus is to help individuals and couples get rid of the rocks and smooth out the sheets.
Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. He approaches psychotherapy from an integrative perspective, which seeks to explain human behavior by bringing together physiological, affective, cognitive-behavioral, neurobiological and systemic approaches as they apply to the natural stages of human development and the wide range of human functioning.1 Ian endeavors to create an atmosphere of inquisitive reflection, along with a sense of safety and commitment to the therapist-patient bond.
Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent appearances on CNN, The Today Show, The Dr. Oz Show, and NPR. He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships, with recent appearances at New York University, Yale, Princeton, the French Institute Alliance Francaise, the inaugural Sex and Attachment conference in NYC and the 2016 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium.
Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of numerous books, including She Comes First (Harper Collins) which is the best-selling sex advice book of the last decade and has been translated into more than a dozen languages.
In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and he is a member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He works with individuals and couples both privately and at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities. His practice is composed equally of heterosexual and LGBTQ patients and is split between individuals and couples.
Ian has received post-graduate certification from the Psychotherapy Center for Gender and Sexuality and the Family and Couples Treatment Services divisions at ICP, where he is also on the faculty and teaches courses in sex therapy. Ian has also completed a post-graduate program in Trauma Studies at ICP, where he was trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) in addition to other modalities for working with trauma survivors.
Ian is also the founder of GoodInBed.com, a site that brings together the knowledge of many of the country's leading sex and relationships experts in the form of ebooks, articles, and a moderated forum. In collaboration with behavioral health scientist Dr. Kristen Mark of the University of Kentucky, GoodinBed.com also conducts original research into various aspects of human intimacy and sexuality. Recent topics of study include: relationship boredom, sexual adventurousness and changing attitudes around monogamy.
Ian was born and raised in New York City, where he lives with his wife and two sons and their family dogs, Jitterbug and Oscar.
1. Erskine, R. G., & Moursund, J. P. (2011). Integrative psychotherapy in action. Karnac Books.