QUESTION: "My boyfriend's penis is very small. I can't even feel it when he's inside me. Help!"

ANSWER: While most heterosexual women enjoy the physical sensation and/or emotional closeness of penile penetration, a big penis isn't necessary for satisfaction. The clitoris is the powerhouse of the female orgasm. So, technically, deep penetration shouldn't be necessary for a woman to climax.

Maybe your guy just needs to work harder, or at least better. Even a man with a very small penis should be able to use it to maximum effect. Experiment with positions like the female superior, where you have more control and can press your clitoris against his pelvic bone as you thrust. Or, have him stimulate you manually or with a vibrator as you ride him. You could also try the man-on-top position, but place your feet on his shoulders and prop a pillow under your pelvis to alter the angle of penetration. Another way your man can bring you to orgasm is with his tongue. In short (no pun intended), reframe your thinking to focus on quality, not quantity.

Also know that it's estimated that one to three inches of the penis is typically pulled into the perineum, the area of smooth skin right beneath the testicles: The tighter the pelvic area, the more likely the muscles in his perineum are drawing his member into his body. So, if he can get his pelvis opened up through relaxation, breathing, and massage, it may help to actually lengthen his penis, over time.

If you want more info on how to administer a pelvic massage, feel free to check out either my book, He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man, or Out in the Open, by Dr. Louis Schultz.