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Featured Question

“Dear Ian,
I feel terrible. I frequently find myself fantasizing during sex about men other than my husband. Is that abnormal? I feel so guilty, but I can’t help it: Fantasizing helps me enjoy sex, especially after seven years of being together. Sometimes, in the middle of sex, my husband will ask me what I’m thinking about (I guess he can tell I’m in another world), and then I lie and say I’m not thinking about anything. Should I tell him the truth? Won’t he be hurt? I love my husband, but in a weird way, I feel like I’m cheating on him when I fantasize; so much so that I’m starting to avoid sex.”

--Ellen, thirty-six, interior decorator

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QUESTION:"How do I deal with a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation?"

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QUESTION:"My boyfriend's penis is very small. I can't even feel it when he's inside me. Help!"

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QUESTION: "My boyfriend thinks our sex life is great...but I've been faking my orgasms. What should I do?"

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QUESTION: "I’ve discovered that my teenage son has been using his computer to look at porn on the Internet. In fact, I think he’s becoming a porn junkie. And some of the stuff seems really hard core. His father isn’t much help in talking to him about this—he’s got some old porn magazines lying around too! Can you help me get my son (and my husband) back on the right track!"

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