Sex goddess secrets: every
woman wants to be the greatest lover her guy has ever had.
These bedroom moves will ensure you secure that coveted spot.
Cosmopolitan; 4/1/2006; Triffin, Molly
* There are women who are great in bed,
and then there are sex goddesses--chicks who not only have
a stash of killer seduction tricks but whose finely tuned
sack skills push men over the edge. In addition, they've mastered
an enthusiastic, almost-anything-goes attitude and know how
to make any guy feel like a great lover. Most important, they
do all this without compromising their own pleasure. As for
becoming a bona fide sex goddess yourself, integrate these
scorching tips (gleaned from top sex experts) into your repertoire
and you'll attain that supreme status too.
GODDESS SECRET They start preplay in the AM.
Bliss masters plant the seed of desire early so it has a chance
to grow all day. "When you're planning on having a hot
night, begin foreplay in the morning," says Olivia St.
Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man
Wild in Bed. Tricks that fuel his lust: Wedge a naughty note
under his windshield wiper or give him a deep kiss before
scooting off to work. As for getting in a frisky frame of
mind yourself, mentally replay a sexy memory or fantasy when
you have some downtime.
GODDESS SECRET They find erotic inspiration everywhere.
Say you're putting on a pair of heels for a date and you realize
they make your legs look ridiculously hot. 'lap into that
later and keep your stilettos on in the sack. Or if you suddenly
notice how plush your man's hall carpet is, make a mental
note to suggest getting it on there one night soon. "Great
lovers zone in on the passion potential in any everyday situation,"
says California sex therapist Linda DeVillers, PhD. Throughout
the day, put your senses on high alert--savor delicious smells
and tastes, sexy sights, feel-good fabrics, and sensual music.
It'll help you develop sex goddess-grade carnal spontaneity.
GODDESS SECRET They coax a man out of his carnal safe zone.
Men tend to fall into position ruts because they're focused
on climaxing. "He'll opt for the tried-and-true move
he knows will get him off," explains Ava Cadell, PhD,
author of Pocket Idiot's Guide to Oral Sex. "But he'll
be glad if you push him to try new stuff." After all,
that's what gifted sex partners do. Figure out what else he'll
enjoy based on his go-to position. Example: Doggie-style dudes
may also love reverse cowgirl because of the similar angle.
GODDESS SECRET They give hot teases
Cop this superior seductress technique: Simulate sex during
foreplay. Rhythmically suck his fingers or slide his hand
back and forth between your breasts. "Acting out a preview
boosts arousal because it's so close to intercourse,"
says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl's Guide
to Bad Carl Sex.
GODDESS SECRET They step on the brakes--twice.
The harder it is to get something, the more you usually want
it, right? Lust lesson: "Delayed gratification builds
physical tension and emotional excitement," says St.
Claire. For instance, lick his penis, then stop and run your
fingers over his chest. Next, take him entirely into your
mouth for a few moments before stopping again. Finally, give
him full-on oral action. Slowing down two times will give
a hotter pay off than being unbridled off the bat. Do this
during intercourse too.
GODDESS SECRET They push the peak.
At the moment of climax, incorporate a small but powerful
move to heighten the experience. Squeeze his thighs with your
hands when you're on top, kiss him hard, or arch your back
so that your breasts thrust up against him in missionary position.
GODDESS SECRET They send passion signals.
You know how sometimes you're in the mood for a quickie and
other times you want sensual sex? Clue guys in to those cravings.
"When men are turned on, their ability to interpret physical
signs is heightened," says Cadell. For example: Knead
his tush for forceful action; trail your finger down his back
for a gentle response
GODDESS SECRET They modify their favorite moves.
Erotic experts have amassed an arsenal of creative positions.
Well, here's one of their best tricks for inventing them:
Do a de rigueur sex move standing up. For instance, instead
of regular girl-on-top, have your guy scoot his butt to the
edge of the bed and lie all the way back. Lower onto his member
while standing on the ground over him. "Because you're
stimulating different spots on his penis and in your vagina,
you'll both feel new sensations," says St. Claire. Another
frisky twist: Add gravity. Instead of good of missionary flat
on the bed, hang your shoulders off the mattress. Just tell
your guy to be prepared to pull you up if you get a head rush.
GODDESS SECRET They double the pleasure.
Great lovers are aware that "touching multiple erogenous
zones piques a guy's sensitivity," explains Keesling.
If he's on top, tug his hair with one hand while kneading
his butt with the other. Or during girl-on-top, play with
it is nipples as you lean over and nibble his neck.
GODDESS SECRET They know that almost anything can be a pleasure toy.
To be a superior lover, transform everyday items into bedroom
accessories. "The shock factor adds to the al lure,"
says DeVillers. "It shows your sexual imagination is
vivid." Hot ideas: Spank him with a spatula or blow through
a straw on his package. Just make sure the object is clean.
GODDESS SECRET They engage in liquid lust.
"Many women don't use lube because they figure if they're
aroused, that's enough," says Keesling. But adding store-bought
moisture can boost the sensations, no matter how turned on
you are. Rub your inner thighs with the slick stuff and have
him slide his penis in and out between your legs before entering
you.
GODDESS SECRET They tap into his pillow-talk persona.
News flash: Not all guys crave dirty talk. "Every man
wants to hear he's great in bed, but the kind of pillow talk
that makes one guy hot might turn another off," says
Keesling. Reading his foreplay body language to figure out
the lingo that'll boost his ego is a sex goddess must. If
he's a gentle kisser, he may prefer sensual speech ("I
love how you touch me"); if he's a bit rougher, chances
are, he's into raunchier talk ("You feel so big").
GODDESS SECRET They do unexpected things with their bodies.
"The more you surprise your man, the more aroused he'll
get," says Cadell. Carnal queens come up with tons of
creative, frisky ideas, and one source of inspiration is their
own bodies. Some mind-blowing moves that don't require you
to be a contortionist: Tickle his testicles with your hair
or stick your heels into the back of his thighs during sex.
GODDESS SECRET They amp up the risk.
Sexual savants know one way to score a major buzz during nooky
is to up the risk of getting caught. Seduce your guy somewhere
semipublic. One idea: Leave the shades open while hooking
up. "In risky situations, your body releases extra testosterone
and activates neurotransmitters in the brain, which increase
arousal," explains Cadell.
GODDESS SECRET They maximize body contact.
Try to touch as much of his skin with yours as you possibly
can during sex to create the sense that you are melting into
each other. "This traps your body heat and feels very
intimate," says Cadell. The primo positions for connecting
on this level: missionary with his chest against yours, doggie-style
when you're both lying down, or standing.
GODDESS SECRET They keep their hands on themselves.
Touching your body during sex brings you pleasure while sending
him the message that you're confident--a requirement for any
sex goddess. Zigzag your finger down your chest or stroke
your clitoris before climax. "He'll feel like you're
giving him a show," says Keesling. "Just make sure
you also let him know you like what he's doing."
GODDESS SECRET They squeeze from within.
It turns out that one of the most powerful tricks is invisible.
But erotic aficionados have perfected this secret inner flex.
At any time during sex, grip his penis with your PC muscles
(the series of pubococcygeus muscles that you contract to
stop a stream of urine). "It provides you with more friction
and enhances pressure for him," says DeVillers.
GODDESS SECRET They lock eyes during oral.
An experienced woman knows a guy loves watching her pleasure
him (glance up when you're going down on him he's probably
looking at you), and she capitalizes on that by giving her
man a sexy stare mid-action. "This instantly increases
intimacy," affirms Cadell. It also turns him waaay on.
GODDESS SECRET They hit instant replay.
The moments immediately after sex are crucial to sealing in
the hotness. First, mentally savor the highlights. "This
will make the pleasurable effects last longer," says
Cadell. Then several minutes post-booty session, turn to look
at him and simply say, "Damn, that was good."
SEX GODS
No insecurity issues here! Eighty-two percent of men rate
themselves as either good or excellent in bed. Signs He's Good in Bed
You can size up a man's passion potential before you slip
between the sheets. Some hints:
HE CLIMBS THE WORK LADDER.
Goal-oriented guys may strive to be your best and ensure you
climax.
HE'S AN ADVENTURE MAGNET.
Thrill-seekers might also bring that element of excitement
to sex.
HE TAKES YOU TO AN ICE-SCULPTURE EXHIBIT.
Guys who come up with creative dates may be more likely to
suggest new sex positions too.
HE BUSTS A MOVE.
Dancing shows he's uninhibited and comfortable in his own
skin.
HE HITS THE GYM.
Athletes have more blood flow to the genitals and thus stronger
sex drives and firmer erections.
HE LOOKS YOU IN THE EYE.
If he really listens and asks you questions, it's a good bet
that he'll be extremely engaged and in tune with you sexually.
