This year’s runaway bestseller, He’s Just Not That Into You, was more than a book- it sparked a relationship revolution that had women recognizing and abandoning their unreturned phone calls and one-night stands. But it has also left many women feeling powerless, frustrated and wondering, “okay, what next?”

Now, with his witty, provocative and empowering response, sex therapist and popular author Ian Kerner not only picks up where He’s Just Not That Into You left off, but also offers an inspiring, feminist rebuttal, BE HONEST- YOU’RE NOT THAT INTO HIM EITHER!

In the spirit of debate, Kerner writes in the introduction, “This book will not reduce men’s behaviors to a simple tagline that he’s not that into you. Relationships are more complex than that. This book is designed to make you think about your actions and behaviors.

That’s right, even though it might be momentarily liberating to think, “Hey, it’s not my fault it didn’t work out, he’s just not that into me,” it’s just not that simple. Life doesn’t let us off the hook so easily. And the idea that you are powerless to affect what a guy feels about you – that you might as well just be plucking the petals off of daisies (“he’s into me, he’s into me not”) is part of the process of lowering your standards, abdicating responsibility for your actions, and accepting defeat.

Now, in BE HONEST- YOU’RE NOT THAT INTO HIM EITHER, Kerner encourages women to think about why they settle for men that don’t make their hearts flutter, and more importantly, motivates them to seek ones that do.