I know this isn’t cool, but how can I tell my husband I don’t like the stuff he does in bed?

Ian: You can start by making talking about sex sexy. It’s not enough to just be positive and constructive, but to actually talk about the sex you want in a way that inspires a guy to want it too – let’s say he’s not so generous when it comes to lavishing you with oral attention, or his idea of foreplay is a peck on the lips and a hand down your pants. Tell him about what you want in the form of a sexy thought or a sexy dream. Say, hey you, I don’t know what my unconscious was thinking last night, but I had a really sexy dream about you. Trust me, he’ll be interested and want to know more. And then go on to describe the sex you’d like to be having rather than focusing on the sex you’re not having – make sense?

Heidi: I think that makes sexy sense! You can also watch naughty movies together or read books. When you see or read something you think you might like to try, point it out. Say, “Wow, that looks kinda fun…” Then make a move to show you mean business.