Men are jerks. We don’t call when we say we will. We lie. We cheat on our wives and our girlfriends. We leave the toilet seat up, and we engage in a host of clichéd behaviors that modern dating guides lay out in obvious terms so you can move on with your lives. Yes, some men are jerks. But you know that because you’ve dated us. And you’re smart enough to know that when a guy doesn’t call you, it means he’s not that into you.

But despite your intelligence, you’ve begun to operate on his terms. And who can blame you? Go on enough bad dates and your hopes of finding love are sure to diminish. You start to make adjustments, taking a realistic and pragmatic approach. You begin to settle. You know that frogs don’t turn into princes, so you lower your standards enough until it gets difficult to tell the two apart. Whether out of good old-fashioned horniness, social pressure (combined with the perception that there are no good men left) or simply the dismal dating disappointments you continually face, you’ve lowered your standards--perhaps without even realizing it. But in doing so, you’ve forgotten that while he may be showing you that he’s not that into you, the truth is you were never really that into him in the first place. Be honest. You were with him while you were waiting for something better to come along. He wasn’t that great to begin with, but he was better than nothing. Or was he?

You settled, and then you got stuck. Well, this book is going to help you get unstuck.