But having the right tool is just a start; you need to know how to use it. Many women complain woefully about men's oral techniques: the lack of consistent, rhythmic pressure; their roughness; the mad stampede for the clitoris.

Sadly, many women also complain about men's attitudes towards cunnilingus: squeamish and hesitant; pandering; impatient, even angry. And many men fail to finish what they started. In The Hite Report on Male Sexuality, the author observes that although most men enjoy cunnilingus, only a small minority of men continued to perform it until the woman reached orgasm.

Most men consider cunnilingus an aspect of foreplay, an appetizer to be served before the main meal of genital intercourse. But cunnilingus is a repast in and of itself, and there are hundreds, if not thousands, of unique ways to partake.

"Vagina or Vulva: that is the Question"

The visible parts of the female genitalia are encompassed by the vulva, or what's commonly, and mistakenly, referred to as the vagina. "Vagina" tends to be the de facto word we use to describe "everything down there," but the entrance to the vagina, also known as the introitus, is just one part of the vulva's impressive expanse and certainly not the primary part when it comes to stimulation and the process of arousal.

Etymologically, "vagina" originates from a Latin word meaning "a sheath or scabbard for a sword," reinforcing its relationship to the penis and dependency upon penetration or insertion for broader meaning—— which may be indicative of the reproductive process, but certainly not the pleasure process.