The Horny Girl

“It sounds like a cliché, but I have needs as well. I get horny and I need to deal with it. And even when I know it’s not the perfect situation, I sleep with guys I know I’m not into. Is it love? No. But at least it’s another body.”
--Karen, 33, advertising, Denver, Colorado

Karen’s situation is quite common. I hear stories like hers all the time in my work. Female desire, from a purely physiological point of view, often outpaces that of males.
Why? Well, as Hugh Hefner knows all too well, the female body is built for sex. Women are like sleek, turbocharged Maseratis compared to their male Yugo counterparts with his relatively inefficient penis. And let’s face it: Women are often running on a full tank of libido at a point when many men are starting to run perilously close to empty. And what is the engine that drives this pimped-out ride? The clitoris, which has no purpose other than sexual pleasure. It comes factory-built with twice as many nerve endings as the male penis (about 8,000 in total), an enviable anatomical reality that gives rise to multiple orgasms (viva la vulva!)

While guys are at their sexual best at about the time they can begin voting, women peak between their late twenties and early forties (among other proof points, women in their ‘sexual prime’ report an increase in orgasms at these ages). While some of this can be attributed to hormonal changes, one major factor seems to be social conditioning. As women gain experience and self-confidence, they begin to feel more comfortable with themselves and their bodies. This in turn leads them to embrace erotic exploration as they discover their deeper sexual selves.

It’s your world, ladies, we men just write books telling you how best to have sex in it.