Therapist, Sex and Relationship Specialist, NYT Best-selling Author

Ian Kerner

Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist and NPR amongst others. Ian contributes regularly on the topic of relationships for CNN. He lectures frequently, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, Goop, and TED 2021. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages, as well as the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (Grand Central). In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). He is the co-founder and co-director of the Sex Therapy Program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of the oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities in New York City.

CNN logo and photo of couple turning away from one another. CNN tagline: life but better. Section: Relationships Headline: Turn rupture into repair. How to navigate relationship arguments.
New York Times logo and illustration of couple turning away from one another while imagining kissing. Headline: Is It Time to See a Sex Therapist? Subheading: Sex can be an important part of personal well-being. But sex therapists say the work they do remains misunderstood.
New York Times logo and illustration of couple embracing. Headline: 8 SEx Myths That Experts Wish Would Go Away Subheading: Everyone ielse is having more sex than you. Men want sex more than women do. And more.
How to get the excitement back: Long-term sexual boredom is common but not inevitable. Ues these five focused strategies to rekindle your sex life together. A guide from Psyche by Ian Kerner.
Writing—and Rewriting—Your Sex Script. A Q & A with Ian on the goop website

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  • Ian writes for CNN on how to turn rupture into repair
  • Ian talks with Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine on their GirlsGottaEat podcast about the "sex script" and some of the main issues that plague couples
  • Ian is quoted in The Economist
  • Ian discusses porn in America on NPR